Psychology of Success

Video Secrets of the Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

In his best-seller “the Four Hour Work Week”, Tim Ferriss shares some of the secrets of working less and enjoying life more.

In the short video below, he shares some of the key secrets of freeing up your time.

These include:

1. Process of Elimination
This is based on Pareto’s 80/20 principle. To make this work you have to find which 20% of activities generate 80% of your desired results or which 20% of people consume 80% of your time. If you apply this principle to everything, you will be able to find your:
– Inefficiencies and eliminate them.
– Strengths and critical tasks you should focus on

He argues that a traditional fixed daily timetable has no value in the modern world and is a legacy of an obsolete way of working.

In the knowledge economy, we should aim to move from ‘presence to performance’.

If you cut out the things that swallow your time without making any contribution, you’ll find that very few things matter.

2. Cultivating Selective Ignorance

To make the most of our time, we need to be on a ‘low information’ diet. Trying to keep abreast of all developments will ensure most of your time is spent in input and not enough will go into output. And you can’t possible digest all that information.

A more effective approach is to catch up when necessary rather than to keep up. The secret is to let things wait.

He describes email as ‘the single largest acceptable interruption in modern life.” It allows us to “simulate forward motion without actually achieving anything.”

The way to deal with email, he argues, is to check it twice a day and focus your time instead on critical tasks.

3. Outsource Your Life
You need to replace the concept of annual income with hourly income. In practice this means hiring virtual assistants to help you with everything as the costs of paying people is often less than the value of the time we give up for many routine tasks.

The overall point is that if you want to set yourself up to win, you should set your own rules rather than following those set by others based on an outdated way of thinking.

The Power of Focus in Getting What You Want

One of the keys to success in any area of life is being able to focus all your efforts on getting exactly what you want.

If you’re in sport, it’s easy to motivate yourself towards winning a championship or winning a medal.

In business, the goals are not always so obvious but the secret of success is knowing what you want and committing to it 100%.

It’s lack of clear focus that leads so many people to be easily distracted by new ideas or ‘opportunities’ that come their way and end up unsatisfied with the results.

When you have a clear vision, you know where your business is going. So, it becomes easy to make decisions as you concentrate your activities and resources on that outcome.

The ability to focus your efforts is one of the key points that separates successful business owners from the rest.

  • Unsuccessful business owners are like light bulbs. They disperse energy in many different directi
    ons at onlightbulbce. They’re opportunists – always looking for easy ways to make money because they don’t have a long-term plan. They spending too much time evaluating new opportunities and not enough taking action.
  • Successful business owners are more like lasers, focusing all their energy on a single outcome with very powerful results. They are strategic and know where their business is going so they can identify opportunities that will help them get there.

The great advantage of knowing what you want is that the power of the mind will help you get it.

Within your mind at an unconscious level is something called the Reticular Activating System.

According to some descriptions, this is almost like your own personal search engine which automatically picks up ideas and opportunities to help you move toward that goal. It is the Reticular Activating System that is said to help you notice which of the millions of bits of information coming at you every second are the ones that will help you get what you want.

Another way of looking at this was described by Robert Anton Wilson in his book Prometheus Rising, where he talks about how ‘the thinker thinks, the prover proves.’ Essentially, Prometheus Risingyour mind is split into two parts:

  • The ‘thinker‘ has total freedom and can think anything.
  • The ‘prover‘ will find evidence for it.

So, if you’re focused on where you’re going – and believe you will get there – then the ‘prover’ will find ways of supporting you and helping you toward your objective.

But if you have no clear sense of direction or you have doubts about your abilities, your ‘prover’ will come up with evidence that you are right.

Imagine you are a golfer on the last hole of a major championship. If you want to win, you want to be thinking ‘I’m going to hole this’ rather than ‘I don’t want to miss it’.

Keep your focus 100% on what you want rather than on what you don’t want. Either way, you might just get what you’re focusing on.

Focus has been described as Following One Course Until Successful.

So, if you’re not sure what you’re focusing on now, just check your results. If you’re not getting the results that you want, perhaps you need to change your focus.

Here are some points to think about if you want to improve your focus:

  • What is the single most important outcome you are focused on achieving this week?
  • What are the three biggest outcomes you are focused on achieving this year?
  • What activities are you doing or what thoughts are you having that distract you from these objectives?
  • Can you change these thoughts or stop these actions?

So one of the power beliefs of business success is the importance of focus.

Getting What You Want: The One Thing You Need

In this modern age of instant gratification, it’s difficult to wait for something you want, isn’t it?

We’re used to moving at a fast pace and having our needs met immediately.

Moving through a process of growth and development seems to take forever.

We want to reach our goals now, not later. We want to be successful now, not later. We don’t care how we’ll feel later, we care about how we feel now!

So sometimes, on the road to success, the one thing we need a little more of is patience!

The important thing to understand about patience is that it’s all in your head. It’s only your perception of lack in this moment that keeps you feeling impatient!

‘Lack’ is an uncomfortable feeling, so you feel a sense of urgency to eliminate it. You want to hurry and satisfy your need so the feeling of lack will disappear.

But it’s not the lack that actually makes you feel uncomfortable – it’s the belief that you need ‘something’ to make you feel whole and complete and happy.

In this case, achieving your goals and becoming successful will make you feel happy, so you naturally want it to happen immediately.

Since it is virtually impossible to snap your fingers and change your circumstances just like that, allow me to offer some other suggestions for easing your sense of lack:

aim-for-successSet reasonable expectations

Your expectations can often get you in trouble by setting you up for disappointment. Even though you know it’s not likely that you’ll achieve your goals without investing some time and effort into the process, you still have a secret expectation that you’ll see results very quickly.

When it doesn’t happen, you feel let down and angry. Don’t do that to yourself!

Instead, lower your expectations a bit. Rather than expecting overnight miracles, expect to keep making steady progress.

Rather than expecting to transform yourself into a different person right away, expect to feel more and more confident each day.

If you pay more attention to the progress you’re making than the progress you’re not making, you’ll find yourself feeling much more positive and self-assured.

Celebrate small victories

If you focus ONLY on the big goal at the finish line, you will miss out on many moments of joy and satisfaction between now and then.

Make a point of celebrating the small victories you achieve on a daily basis.

Did you face a fear and take action anyway? Did you set aside time to work on your goals? Have you been working consistently on building a more positive outlook?

Feel good about it! Allow yourself to feel a sense of accomplishment about even the smallest forward strides.

Enjoy the process

Imagine taking a trip around tbig-smilehe world and keeping your eyes closed the entire time. What would you miss? What would be the point of taking a trip like that in the first place if you didn’t bother to take in the beauty around you?

Yet, that’s exactly what many of us do on the journey of life. We keep our eyes fixed on our destination and miss out on the journey itself.

Instead, make an effort to enjoy the process of growth. Enjoy the sensation of becoming the perso
n you were meant to be.

Enjoy every step you take and the final step of your journey will be that much sweeter.

Patience can serve you in many other ways too, but most importantly it can make your journey to success much more enjoyable.

It’s worth the effort, don’t you think?

Time Management: 7 Ways To Take Control of Your Day

Perhaps one of the biggest reasons people fail to achieve their potential is that they don’t use their time wisely.

The problem is that when a day, an hour or a minute has passed, you can never get it back.

So the secret of success lies in what you do with every one of your minutes.

If you can manage your time effectively, you feel more in control of your life. It helps you feel more relaxed, maintains your energy levels and improves your performance.

It requires time and effort to change your time management habits, but the benefits you reap will last a lifetime.

Here are 7 ways in which you can change the way you think about time.

1. Stop inputting and start outputting: In the age of information overload, it’s easy to spend all your time absorbing new information and never acting on any of it. So here’s the reality. If you’re an information junkie, perhaps you need to go on an information diet! Limit the time and money you spend on acquiring new information and focus on taking action using what you already know.

2. Always remember why you are doing it: If you have set yourself clear objectives, it’s much easier to manage your time. You’ll be able to evaluate what you are doing on the basis of whether it helps meet your objectives. If you are spending time doing something that doesn’t move you toward your goal, you have to challenge yourself about why you are doing it.

3. Plan your day and stick to your plan: Planning is the foundation of time management. A minute spent planning Time is Moneycan easily save you an hour later on. The best way to schedule is to split large tasks into smaller steps. It feels wonderful when you are able to tick each step off at the end of the day and this is a great motivator.

4. Prioritize Your Time: Prioritizing is your ability to figure out which tasks are most important at a particular time and focus your attention, time and energy on them. This means recognizing the difference between ‘urgent’ and ‘important’.

  • Important activities are those that help us achieve our goals.
  • Urgent tasks seem to demand immediate attention but may relate to other people’s priorities more than our own.

So, before you decide something is urgent, make sure it fits with your own priorities.

5. Say No to yourself as well as to others: The truth is, no matter how efficient you are, you can’t do everything. So, before you get into doing the things on your ‘to-do’ list, consider whether they are really necessary. Sometimes it’s worth creating a ‘not-to-do’ list of things that aren’t really important. Another vital time management skill is learning to say no to others . This can sometimes be hard but saying yes when you want to say no will stress you out and send your time management totally out of focus.

6. Develop systems and processes: It’s very useful to be able to write out what you are doing in the form of a process. This not only helps you do something more efficiently, it also makes it easier to delegate the task to others. As Productivity expert William Edwards Deming said:

‘If you can’t describe what you’re doing as a process, you don’t know what you’re doing’.

7. Take care of yourself: If you are going to get results and still enjoy the lifestyle you want, you have to allocate time to doing things that you enjoy and looking after your own health and fitness. So, make sure you eat well, drink water, get plenty of sleep, relax, and take time off!

Limiting Beliefs and How to Change Them

There’s a little known secret that would help many more people achieve the success they are capable of.

That secret is that it’s possible to change your beliefs.

You may wonder why you would want to. They’re just thoughts after all, right?

Yes, beliefs are indeed thoughts, but they often determine our actions and reactions – and they have the power to hold us back from doing what will make us happy.

For example, if you have a belief that you don’t deserve to be successful, this could lead you to unconsciously sabotage any plans you make to improve your situation.

Or it could cause you to not try at all because you believe it would be a waste of your time and energy.

mindPerhaps a parental figure passed this ‘gem’ on to you, and you simply believe it without question. What might this type of belief do?

  • First, you may find yourself resisting any opportunities that come your way simply because you don’t believe that good things will happen to you.
  • You might also feel inclined to refuse any offers of help that come to you from other people, even if you really want help.
  • You might even go so far as to unconsciously create obstacles and difficulties along the way, just to ‘prove’ to yourself that your beliefs are true.

This may sound far-fetched, but the mind works in mysterious ways!

It’s amazing how easily we can trick ourselves into believing something, and how fiercely we will defend our beliefs when they are challenged – even by ourselves.

How do you know if you have unconscious beliefs that might be holding you back?

One simple way to find out is to grab a sheet of paper and a pen, and start writing statements like these:

  • ‘I deserve to be successful and happy.’
  • ‘I find it easy to make substantial amounts of money.’
  • ‘I encounter opportunities wherever I go.’
  • ‘I am ready to tackle any challenges that I may face.’
  • ‘I believe in my ability to create the success I desire.’

Then take a look at what you wrote and as you read each statement, pay attention to how you feel inside.

If any statement conflicts with one of your existing beliefs, you will feel a twinge of guilt or fear inside. It may be subtle, but if you pay close enough attention you will feel it.

Those are the beliefs you need to work on changing if you want to make any progress.

How do you change existing beliefs? You replace them with more empowering beliefs.

Let’s use this statement as an example: ‘I am ready to tackle any challenges that I may face.’

If, when you read that statement to yourself, you feel uneasiness or dread, then you know you have a doubt about your ability to handle challenges.

Your job is now to convince yourself that you DO have the ability to handle challenges.

Think back to any challenges you have faced in your lifetime. How did you handle them? Did you buckle down and do what needed to be done, or did you cave under the pressure?

If you can recall even one challenge that you were able to handle and overcome, you have solid footing to change your belief!

You simply need to keep convincing yourself that if you handled one challenge successfully, you can handle others. The more frequently and passionately you can reinforce this concept in your mind, the more quickly your underlying belief will change.

Most often, we are capable of much more than we give ourselves credit for. You won’t know until you try.

After you handle even one small challenge, you will feel your confidence growing and you’ll be eager to take on more.

Remember that changing your beliefs is a process but if you keep at it, it won’t be long before you start to notice a big change in your attitude. And like so many other things in life, the more you practice the technique, the better you’ll get at it.

How to Stop Self-Sabotage Getting In the Way of What You Want

Have you ever done something that caused big problems for you and seemed to be in direct opposition to what you thought you wanted?

Like consistently shown up late for work even though your boss warned that you were treading on thin ice?

Or perhaps eating junk food even though you were trying to lose weight and get in shape?

worriedWhy do we do these things? You would think that setting a goal and creating a plan would be enough to get us where we want to go, right? Not necessarily.

There are many possible reasons why we ‘sabotage’ our own success but they most often involve a fear or an ingrained habit.

Take a look at these behaviors and ask yourself whether they have ever derailed your plans:

Procrastination
If you’ve ever found yourself holding back on doing something even though you kept telling yourself you really wanted to do it, you were procrastinating.

Maybe you felt drawn to watch endless hours of television or felt compelled to suddenly clean out your basement so you wouldn’t have to work on your goals.

Believe it or not, procrastination usually has little to do with laziness and more to do with avoidance. Most often, you are trying to avoid an underlying fear or resistance that you don’t feel ready to handle.

Perfectionism
Another way we hold ourselves back is by waiting until we feel everything is just right before we take action. The problem is that this time never arrives or else, by the time we feel ready to do something, we’ve missed the opportunity. So we need to learn to identify the right time to take action so that we can make the progress we want.

Ingrained Habits
No matter how fired up you are about your goals, your old, ingrained habits can seem as solid as concrete. If we try to change those comfortable old routines, we feel nervous and out of place.

So, in order to become comfortable with new habits, we need to stick with them long enough so that they become second nature. It may need a bit of focus and willpower but eventually the new ways will become as solid as concrete too.

Learning to Recognize the Signs of Self-sabotage
The greatest gift you can give yourself is self-awareness. The unconscious nature of self-sabotage is what makes it so difficult to recognize. But with enough honest introspection, you will begin to understand yourself better.

When you do, you will be able to tell when you are working in opposition to your goals. You’ll be able to tell when you feel fearful and hesitant about stepping out of your comfort zones. You’ll recognize avoidance behaviors and take steps to turn them around immediately.

You may think it sounds too easy, but it really is simple.

You just have to be willing to pay attention, overcome fear and continue along the path to success – no matter what it takes.

 

The 5 Steps to Getting What You Want

You know, there’s a reason why only a handful of people manage to get what they want in life – while most of the rest really struggle.

It’s all about having the mindset for success.

Now I know that sounds like psychobabble but the truth is that making a few small changes to the way you think, how you work and the way you communicate with others can make a huge difference.

If you follow these five steps, you’ll be well on the way to creating the right mindset for success.

1. Set a Clear Outcome
If you go on a journey, the first thing you need to know is where you are headed. Yet, in life, most people don’t have a clear idea of where they want to go, so it’s not surprising that so many fail.

Without clarity you lack direction; it becomes hard to make decisions, and your results end up being average at best.

2. Take Action
While it’s important to aim high in setting your vision, it’s best to start with small steps. Too many people fail to get anywhere with their plans because they don’t take the crucial first step. That means you need to start by breaking your goals down into maller, more manageable actions.
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3. Stay Focused on Your Goal
Studies suggest that your mind works on bringing into reality whatever you are focused on. It’s a bit like your mind having its own search engine which automatically picks up ideas and opportunities to help you get what you are thinking about. This works very well if your attention is all focused on what you want. But if you’re not clear what you want – or you spend your time thinking about what you don’t want – you’ll end up with unsatisfactory results.

4. Encourage and Respond to Feedback
When you’ve taken your first step, you’re going to get the most useful thing of all – feedback from others. Feedback won’t always be what you expect or what you want but it’s important to remember that, when you are moving towards your goals, there is no such thing as failure. Thomas Edison regarded every one of his thousands of ‘failed’ attempts to make the light bulb viable as being successful – because each one helped him move closer to his goal in some way.

5. Believe in Success
Whenever you set out to do something, you will always end up with one of two things:

  • The result you wanted.
  • An excuse for why you haven’t got it.

People who come up with reasons or excuses for something not happening usually see themselves as not having any control over the outcome. Successful people on the other hand accept responsibility for whatever situation they are in and seek to change it.

The choice you need to make is whether to be one of the people who gets results or one who has many excuses for not getting them. The good news is that whichever one you choose, you will be right – as you will always get what you want.