Getting What You Want: The One Thing You Need

In this modern age of instant gratification, it’s difficult to wait for something you want, isn’t it?

We’re used to moving at a fast pace and having our needs met immediately.

Moving through a process of growth and development seems to take forever.

We want to reach our goals now, not later. We want to be successful now, not later. We don’t care how we’ll feel later, we care about how we feel now!

So sometimes, on the road to success, the one thing we need a little more of is patience!

The important thing to understand about patience is that it’s all in your head. It’s only your perception of lack in this moment that keeps you feeling impatient!

‘Lack’ is an uncomfortable feeling, so you feel a sense of urgency to eliminate it. You want to hurry and satisfy your need so the feeling of lack will disappear.

But it’s not the lack that actually makes you feel uncomfortable – it’s the belief that you need ‘something’ to make you feel whole and complete and happy.

In this case, achieving your goals and becoming successful will make you feel happy, so you naturally want it to happen immediately.

Since it is virtually impossible to snap your fingers and change your circumstances just like that, allow me to offer some other suggestions for easing your sense of lack:

aim-for-successSet reasonable expectations

Your expectations can often get you in trouble by setting you up for disappointment. Even though you know it’s not likely that you’ll achieve your goals without investing some time and effort into the process, you still have a secret expectation that you’ll see results very quickly.

When it doesn’t happen, you feel let down and angry. Don’t do that to yourself!

Instead, lower your expectations a bit. Rather than expecting overnight miracles, expect to keep making steady progress.

Rather than expecting to transform yourself into a different person right away, expect to feel more and more confident each day.

If you pay more attention to the progress you’re making than the progress you’re not making, you’ll find yourself feeling much more positive and self-assured.

Celebrate small victories

If you focus ONLY on the big goal at the finish line, you will miss out on many moments of joy and satisfaction between now and then.

Make a point of celebrating the small victories you achieve on a daily basis.

Did you face a fear and take action anyway? Did you set aside time to work on your goals? Have you been working consistently on building a more positive outlook?

Feel good about it! Allow yourself to feel a sense of accomplishment about even the smallest forward strides.

Enjoy the process

Imagine taking a trip around tbig-smilehe world and keeping your eyes closed the entire time. What would you miss? What would be the point of taking a trip like that in the first place if you didn’t bother to take in the beauty around you?

Yet, that’s exactly what many of us do on the journey of life. We keep our eyes fixed on our destination and miss out on the journey itself.

Instead, make an effort to enjoy the process of growth. Enjoy the sensation of becoming the perso
n you were meant to be.

Enjoy every step you take and the final step of your journey will be that much sweeter.

Patience can serve you in many other ways too, but most importantly it can make your journey to success much more enjoyable.

It’s worth the effort, don’t you think?

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